Friday, October 19, 2007

Transition

My oh my how quickly things change around here. We are now going through a brand new transition. Some day I'll get to push the proverbial baby out.

My son is coming to live with us. He has set fire to most of his bridges and, although few are completely burned down, he is left with few options for where to go until he turns 18. Advice solicited!

About a month ago, my aunt and uncle decided they couldn't handle him anymore and began the process to relinquish their guardianship to the State. They've not been allowed to do that thus far but they've made it clear that they don't want him back in their house and he doesn't want to be there anyway.

Enter the social worker. She is an awesome woman who makes it clear that she is working for Zack's best interest but also sympathizes with us (aunt, uncle, hubby and me) about the difficulty of the situation. She called me when aunt and uncle first contacted the State about relinquishing and asked for my opinion of the situation, which I gave unflinchingly, and asked if we were an option for Zack's placement.

Until this past Wednesday hubby was vehemently against having Zack come here to live. Not because he doesn't care about the kid--because of the financial, emotional, and sanity draining nature of caring full time for a kid with as many problems as my number one son. However, after lengthy discussion with the social worker, we both agreed that we could do it. Not without many troubles and a lot of stress, but we can do it nonetheless. I forgot to include the LOVE part. Zack has a lot of love to give and he's fiercely loyal when you gain his trust and respect.

I am incredibly nervous going into this endeavor. I cried a little yesterday and I'm sure I will have many more days of stress and tears, but this life is coming full circle. He was with me at the beginning of his life and now he'll be with me at the end of his dependent life. It is my sincere hope that he will grow wings while he is here.

And soar when he leaves.

5 comments:

Ericson said...

Wow it sounds like some big changes for your household. I wish I had some advice to offer. Sometimes things happen for a reason, and hopefully things will work out for the best.

Aimee said...

Thanks Tombi, yes I would love some advice. Even if you just tell me what you hated that your parents did when you were a teen!

Niki said...

Lots of hugs and love for you, from someone with absolutely no advice to give.

Morag said...

Love you too Aimee.
Xx L

Housefairy said...

I hated how my mom didn't trust me. She used any excuse in the book to treat me with disdain and suspicion. It turned my heart cold and hard and did a lot of damage to me. For kids, each day is like a new start. Love him all up, no matter what. Have your consequences and discipline be firm and fair, and let him know he is loved, loved, cherished. thats all I have to offer today. Thinking about you guys...